Hello, When you hire me as an EOL doula for yourself or a loved one, what do I have to offer?
A fair question.
First and most importantly, I will develop a personal connection with your loved one and his/her family. My services will not center around the disease; instead my services will focus on the substance and personhood of my client. Who is he/she? Who have they loved? When have they hurt? Are they at peace?
I will reach out to you or your loved one to support him/her articulate in some form the legacy they want to leave. Legacy work is very helpful to all involved and offers great comfort to those who will remain.
I will teach your loved one ways to find calm and peace through meditation and/or prayer.
I will give my full respect to your loved one’s belief system, cultural and family traditions, and religious/spiritual beliefs.
I will honor and help calm any fears, stressors, regrets or worries your loved one may be carrying.
I will sit vigil when the time comes and if you so choose.
I will support you in the early days of the grieving who are left behind.
I will help ease the family’s worries and stress by doing things such as running needed errands, listening quietly to each of you, helping ease your fears by serving you.
The definition of “doula” is “servant”. I will serve your loved one and his/her family from my heart with the goal of supporting your loved one and you to transform this journey awaiting all of us from earthly life to ….
Doula work does not forestall or hasten life’s final moments. Instead, doula work provides the opportunity for a smoother journey for all involved.
I look forward to hearing from you when you are ready.